Contrary to what other people think, some of the happiest people do not have much, and some of the smartest cannot even show you a high school diploma. Some people can help you achieve healing, even if they do not have titles written after their names.
What these people have in common, along with others who are enjoying a life of contentment and peace, is healing, authenticity, and purpose. They were brave enough to break free from the traumatic lives they were born into and have lived in for several years, to embrace freedom finally.
They chase their dreams and follow what their hearts tell them. They are aware of how much love, joy, peace, and opportunity this world has to offer them.
If you find that one thing you’re passionate about, be it raising your children or serving in an office, it will never feel like work for you. And once you discover your purpose in life, you will wholeheartedly start to create things to fulfill the very reason for your existence. You won’t be ashamed of it, regardless of other people’s opinions.
Many people around the world feel burnt out, distressed, and unable to sleep well, and they are clueless on how to break away from the unpleasant life they have.
If you are experiencing these same things, we encourage you to read this article to find out whether you have self-destructing habits that you need to recognize. When you realize and acknowledge these habits, only then will you be able to do something to eradicate them.
10 Everyday Habits That Harm Your Well-Being
1. You lie to yourself.
Most people who are living stressful lives have forgotten about their purpose and passion. Because of their busy lives, they have neglected to feed their curiosity and have forgotten how to have fun. In the process, they lost their connection with their inner selves. “I’m too busy” is one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves.
When we allow society and other people’s opinions to dictate how we should live our lives, what we should achieve to be called successful, and how we should have fun, we put our well-being at stake. We become people who exist simply for survival.
So, stop lying to yourself. Make time to reconnect with your inner self so you can stay in tune with your purpose and passion once again. Ask yourself, “Am I genuinely happy with what I am doing?”, and answer it truthfully. If you are honest with yourself, you will see things in a better perspective.
2. You put things off.
Many of us have the misconception that we have all the time in the world, so we put things off. There is indeed plenty of time, but what we sometimes fail to foresee is that time flies. And before you know it, you’re already running out of time.
What are your goals? What’s on your bucket list? Do you want to travel someplace far, or have you always wanted to be a rock star? Think about the things you’ve always wanted to do.
One day, you will wake up and realize that you’re too old and too weak to do the things you’ve always wanted to try but failed to because you thought you still had a whole lifetime ahead of you. Now is the time to pursue your dreams. Stop procrastinating.
3. You let fear take you over.
Fear is our natural reaction when we are inching closer to the truth. And because we are afraid, we convince ourselves to carry on with it.
Everyone feels fear, from the smallest creature to the biggest one. You are not the only one who’s going through it. So, do not use fear to bail out from something you have to do that will benefit your well-being. By all means, be afraid, but do it anyway.
Recognize where your fear is coming from, and if it’s something you cannot eliminate, then put it in its rightful place. Just don’t let it control you and prohibit you from doing the things that will give you happiness.
4. You don’t go out.
We don’t call our habitat Mother Earth for no reason. The sky, the sunshine, the wildlife, the fresh air, and nature as a whole has a nurturing and healing capacity. Staying indoors, glued to our TV screens and mobile phones block the peace and happiness that only nature can give.
The sunshine warms our soul, and the fresh air invigorates our being. Being indoors means sticking to a routine. Go out and get moving as often as you can. Brisk-walking for just 10 minutes a day can do wonders for your health and mood, so, what’s keeping you from doing it?
5. You let chores and rubbish pile up.
Having clutter around your area brings confusion to your mind as well. Why do you keep the stuff you haven’t used for years? When we remove unnecessary items from our homes, offices, and to-do lists, we create enough space for creativity and energy to work. A clean and spacious area leads to a brighter and happier state of mind. Peace comes to those who show love to their spaces. Look around you and evaluate how your clutter is affecting your productivity and happiness.
6. You take in too much junk from the TV screen.
When you watch TV, especially reality shows, you watch people live their lives while neglecting your own. We are too engrossed with the issues of other peoples’ lives, but forget to deal with our own. We fall asleep watching TV instead of making meaningful conversations or just candid, pillow talks. We’re too immersed with other people’s reality to subconsciously escape our own. We waste our time meddling with celebrities’ lives that we forget to live our own. It’s like a guilty pleasure, but remember, too much of anything is bad for you.
7. You’re too caught up in the past and also consumed with the future.
It’s one thing to exist at the moment, and another to live in the moment. Living in the moment means living your life mindfully, fully aware that each breath you take is a gift. The only thing you can do about the past is to learn from it so you can do better at present.
Dwelling on it is like banging your head against a wall. It is similarly pointless to be consumed with your worries about the future because there is absolutely nothing you can do about it except to live your well in the present. This present moment will lead to the next one, so there’s no better place to start than right here and now.
8. You don’t have a life code.
Living with a code minimizes the things that can sidetrack you from living your life according to your purpose. Some values are more comfortable to live by than others. You can start with the small ones like “Learn how to say no,” or “Ask for help”. One of the best ways to focus on yourself and not be distracted is to establish a code that you can live by. Meditate on the code, and let it manifest in your life.
9. You are judgmental, and you’re not even aware of it.
It’s a hard pill to swallow, but most of us are highly critical of others. We gossip about other people and compare our lives with theirs. Take a moment to jot down every single thought or emotion you’ve had towards someone. Take note of the way you comment on how someone dresses, talks, acts, or how they live their lives in general.
Being aware of how often we judge other people will help us be more compassionate and gracious. If we learn to be less judgmental, only then will we be able to have an open and genuine relationship with other people. A healthy relationship brings peace and healing and well-being.
10. You spend too much time on irrelevant things.
Very often do we hear people say they will start living a healthier lifestyle, spend their money more wisely, or spend time with their loved ones more. But once they feel stressed, they eat whatever they want and make excuses not to exercise.
They go out of their budget to buy that pair of shoes they saw at the mall. They hide their faces behind the screens of mobile phones instead of nurturing the relationships in front of them. Acknowledging and prioritizing the things that matter the most is well-being. If you are busy with things that don’t matter, you are sabotaging your chance of living a happy and peaceful life.
By engaging in these habits, we are blocking our own happiness. Our life shouldn’t be like that. We are meant to live our life to the fullest and enjoy each moment we are given. Live in the present, and make time for the essential things. Get rid of clutter, and be selective with your form of entertainment. Go out, and be kind to the people around you.
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